So you don’t need to declutter?
You’ll never get back the money you spent so what’s the point in getting rid of stuff, right?
But you’re here. Reading this blog post. Something inside of you overruled the unhelpful thoughts, the voice inside your head that doesn’t like change and is particularly good at sabotaging your plans.
Don’t listen to the voice, it’s just feeling threatened. I speak from experience because I’ve been there, ten times over. I’ve experienced the same emotions and challenges you will no doubt face and banished clutter from my life forever. But don’t just take my word for it.
When I first started decluttering, I realized that up until that point I’d treated our possessions as if I was a museum curator. I collected and displayed objects other people would like, identify with or be impressed by. Does this sound familiar? So you don’t need to declutter? Be honest….
Here are two events which helped to bring everything to a head….
- A couple of years ago, I harbored under the illusion that we were good shoppers. Then I found 920 teabags and other duplicate purchases in our kitchen cupboards. I wasn’t aware of what we had already bought and felt shamed.
- I’m a voracious reader and would never have considered parting with as many books as I now have…Until I put several books I already owned on my birthday wish list. I didn’t know they were even on the bookshelf and I’d never read either of them.
In other words, I was a walking disaster. And for a long time, I felt encumbered about my belongings and ashamed of what I had amassed. In the end, I had no choice but to confront myself and the choices I’ve made over the years. The money had already been spent and I couldn’t change that or get it back, which was a tough life lesson.
I had to learn to emotionally detach and remind myself that above all, most possessions are not needed. But some of them are definitely wanted, be it for reasons of guilt, obligation, sentimentality or otherwise. And, in my experience, these emotions will usually arise for two reasons. Either you want something to show for the money you’ve spent on stuff you know has to go, or you know you have to accept that you’ve ultimately wasted your money.